You no longer feel the love, but how do you tell your guy/gal you want out?

1. Be decisive: Often many make the mistake of announcing the split and shred their ex's negative side to their friends. Spare them the torture and don't annonuce until you're absolutely sure. Out of repect for your partner and vice-versa, don't tell anyone you're gonna end it. Confiding is fine, but leave your final decision to the two of you. How would you feel if you were to find out from someone else you're about to be dumped? Besides , it wouldn't refelect very well on you too.
2. Don't avoid the issue: Sometimes, we foolishly think "Hey if i stopped returning his/her call, they'd get the hint right?" Wrong! People on the receiving end often have no idea what to make up of this passive behaviours. Were you offended by what she did etc etc etc? You should be able to speak to someone you dated or had an intimate relations with. You owe your ex at least that! Not doing so is just bad manners on your part. Besides ignoring incessant ring of the phone can be nerve-wrecking than just explaining once and for all to him/her that it's over.
3. Say what you mean and mean what you say: Stop it already with the predictable movie lines already. "I love you but i need some space..." may sound thoughtful on tv but its annoyingly vague in real life. You might think that drawing out the end over time is a gentler way of letting go of your partner but in truth you're unknowingly creating more unpleasant and painful end. Don't give anyone false hope. Be blunt. Its painful at first but kinder. Also don't make empty promises. If you've both decide to remain friends, give each other some time and personal space before embarking on platonic grounds.
4. Be responsible: Some people adopt silly ploys to let themselve off the hook so they'd not be saddled by guilt over a failed relationship. You become curt, bitchy and unreasonable. Suddenly other person does is irritable and you intentionally start arguments in the hope that your partner get so pissed off he/she will initiate the breakup. That's plain cowardice! Take responsibility for your dissatisfaction.
5. Plan the breakup carefully: When meeting your-soon-to-be-ex to break the "breaking" news, don't dress to celebrate! Skip the wayang make-up. The trickiest part is to find an appropriate venue to stage this. Its best to find neutral place where both of you are comfortable to express your feelings. If you're breaking up with the drama mama sort, its best to avoid crowded places for your own dignity. Choosing the right location can eliminate potential embarrasment. After you muster your courage to speak up, the last thing you want to contend with loud wails and strangers pointing and staring!

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